At Tufts Medical Center and Tufts Children's Hospital, we are closely following and preparing for the spread of COVID-19. This situation is rapidly changing, which poses an important question for parents, “How do I talk about the coronavirus with my kids?” We are here to help guide the conversation.
Be open and honest
When such a newsworthy event like the coronavirus is occurring, kids listen and tune in. And they aren’t always hearing it from the most reliable sources – other children, social media or parts of adult conversations can create thoughts that are overwhelming and troubling. Don’t avoid discussing the topic with them. Approach them with basic factual information that will help them understand what’s happening, without scaring them.
Speak at their level
- For younger children – Ask them what they have heard about coronavirus. Use what they tell you, if anything, to correct anything they may have misunderstood or that is not true altogether. Once you’re done explaining to them, ask what they think about the virus to make sure they understand what you’ve told them and aren’t too anxious about what is going on.
- For pre-teens and teens –Older children have an easier time understanding, but information overload can easily heighten anxiety. Since they are more likely to have an open line of communication with their friends who may also be receiving misinformation or they can go online on their own, show them where they may find the sources of truth. The Center for Disease Control (CDC) site, CDC.gov, is a helpful reference.
Calm fears with factual information
When you’re delivering the actual information to your child, you should consider only explaining to them the topics that they are interested in. For example, if they ask about school closing or why they can’t have play dates. And if you don’t know an answer, use that opportunity to visit CDC.gov to look up the most up-to-date, truthful information. Stay calm when giving information. Explain that symptoms for most are like a cold or the flu. If they’re worried that they may get it, explain that children don’t seem to get as sick as adults. If they’re worried about older people getting very sick, let them FaceTime or call their grandparents to feel reassured that they’re okay right now. Remember to address your own anxieties and fears and to manage them as best you can when around your children. Children are very intuitive and will pick up on your ques if you appear anxious.
Help kids feel in control
Explain to kids the important steps we can all take to help fight the virus. Teach them about the importance of frequent handwashing and lead by example. Explain social distancing and why it’s important to stay home right now. Another great way to encourage control is with a routine. Having a daily routine creates a sense of normalcy for children. If they know what they’re supposed to be doing for the day, they will feel more in control.
Reassure with the promise of further information
If your child does hear the news and are concerned about statistics, explain that death from coronavirus is rare. If you sense them getting overwhelmed, tell your children that you don’t need to talk about it anymore but position yourself as a source of information if they have any questions moving forward.
If you, or your child are feeling overwhelmed during this time you should reach out to your family physician, therapist or discover an online resource.
Posted March 2020
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